Those five little words can often times have the biggest of impacts on a woman’s life! Don’t get me wrong…It’s not anything close to the oh so life changing line of “Would you marry me”… but often times it’s a step in the right direction.
As Valentine’s Day fast approaches and the whole world all of a sudden forgets to revolve on its own axis and instead, is caught up in the spinning frenzy of chocolates, cards, candles and… lingerie – the question I’d like to ask is… what about the ladies who DON’T get asked that question?
What does Valentine’s Day mean to the scores of women across the globe (well within the Western world anyway) who have no valentine? It hardly seems fair when you consider it like everyone around you is being invited to a global party of sorts except you- and why?
Because you don’t have a man.
It reminds me of those teenage American films when the school kids are in the cafeteria at lunch time and there’s the one awkward looking kid who walks in with their dinner tray and there’s no seat at the table for them… they’re just left standing there by the door, clutching onto their dinner tray, looking at the joyous rabble before them and wishing with all their heart that they could but clutch onto the hem of the garment of the cacophony of what it means to belong…
And Sadly… this is where many women find themselves on Valentine’s Day… on the edge… looking in at the seemingly happy crowd of women who have their men… who have their gifts and surprises all displayed across social media platforms like colourful wrapping paper … however forgetting sometimes what these women are really wrapped up in!
Not everything on social media is what it seems and yes… you may see a dazzling young lady with an equally dazzling new diamond ring on display on your news feed… but think carefully about what you’re being fed. That same “bea” (I actually loathe the term as I believe it’s synonymous with the term “GOALS” in relationships – which is again, so assuming and inaccurate – as no one ever knows what really goes on behind closed doors!) … where was I? Oh yes! This “bea” could be beating her from East to West and that new ring could be yet another “apology gift” and a promise that it won’t happen again… which it will… and yet the whole world would be none the wiser and actually wishing they had that ring and all that it presumably symbolises.
Now I don’t want to seem like I’m against relationships and love and Valentine’s Day. Far from it! My husband and I actually got married on Valentine’s Day and I love being spoiled with gifts and chocolate (especially chocolate) – and I love the joy of spreading love and seeing people genuinely happy and in love. But I’m also conscious of the fact that for many women… that desire to be loved isn’t always met by the right people and the pressures of Valentine’s Day can make it a time when standards (as well as premarital panties – yes I said it!) tend to get dropped – and reckless behaviours followed by next day regrets become the norm… all because of one day!
So for those out there who love Love just as much as I do… enjoy your Valentine’s Day with your boo and celebrate and love on each other. And if you don’t have a Valentine’s this year… don’t be disheartened. Show love to those around you who love and care for you too. Don’t do anything reckless and enjoy being you.
Buy yourself a box of chocolates, pour yourself a glass of non alcoholic wine and say cheers to a beautiful you – because there is no one else exactly like you in the World (every hair on your head is numbered – Luke 12:7) and that my dear, is so worth celebrating!
And for anyone who is single out there and who would like to come out for a Valentine’s Day meal, I’m holding a little Valentine’s dinner for singles (hubby won’t mind) in London on Feb 14th. You can find out more information by sending an email to email@example.com and to register your interest.
.. only 10 places available and first come first served.
But whatever you decide to do to celebrate Valentine’s Day this year, be safe, be happy and be blessed.
Faith, Hope & Love,